I’m in a rut, seeking a new passion to occupy me for this next chapter of my life. Unfortunately, practicing law for 32 years was all-consuming and, ultimately, less than satisfying. In my over three decades of lawyering, all the hobbies and interests I had in my younger days fell by the wayside. Further, having no spouse and no living parents, there are no family ties to distract me or keep me tied to one place. In the words of Alice Merton, “I’ve got no roots!”
I’m searching for a new passion to inspire me. Right now, I feel like I’m “doing time” until that inspiration hits. Since I retired in March 2018, I’ve been spending time rekindling old hobbies: built a dollhouse; completed the Lego Creator (Expert) Parisian Restaurant and Mini Cooper; and built a small coffee house display. Fun, right? Unfortunately, I have limited space in my little condo, so there is a limit to how much I can build!
I read an article where the author argued that one needs four things for an accomplished life. He claimed you need to first maximize your potential (physical, mental, & spiritual). I’m working on that daily. Second, you should build, create, design (write books, draw, make music, build a house). I am doing that too. Third, you need to live your own life (figure out your unique life purpose and follow your own path). Well, there’s the rub. I don’t know what my unique purpose is yet. Finally, he said you need to love others.
First, I need to make a decision on if and when to move. A recent article noted that Nevada is the state with the highest projected increase in home values for 2019 – i.e., 14.4%. Seems like this might be a good year to leave Vegas, but since January 2019, prices have stagnated. Moreover, there are a glut of condos for sale in my community and many with price reductions. On the upside, my condo has been beautifully remodeled and I can still make a healthy profit selling now. My realtor indicated that, with so many average condos for sale in my community, my upgraded unit should sell quickly. I told him I will make a decision by April. (Winter and early spring weather are nice in Vegas, so I might as well enjoy it…).
Second, I need to focus on the creative writing course I enrolled in at Udemy. In my youth, my passion was writing fiction. However, after years of writing legal decisions and opinions, I have lost my creativity. I want to rekindle that interest. I will write a novel or memoir in 2019!
Third, whether I’m moving or staying put, I need to start occupying my time with volunteering or a part-time job. I’ve been reluctant to do anything because I want to move. The worst thing is to find a job/volunteer position only to leave two months later. I have been there, done that. I have contacted one nonprofit to volunteer and met with the owner. I am also looking at two other nonprofits who need volunteers.
Finally, I need to get healthier. Last year, I gained 15 pounds in menopause. I also feel extremely run down. I had lab work and am seeing a doctor in a few weeks.
Updates: May 16, 2019
First – I started a diet 3 weeks ago and am down 5 lbs (yeah, I know, it’s mostly water weight….) I simply decided to cut out sugar, stick to 1200 calories a day, eat all meals before 7 pm (a 10-12 hr eating window), and exercise a minimum of 30 minutes a day. I should be at my goal weight (assuming weekly losses of 1-2 lbs) by the end of July.
Second, I finished editing a long volunteer manual for a dog rescue nonprofit. I will research more volunteer opportunities after I finish some Udemy courses (which I have yet to start!).
Finally, I listed the condo and got an offer after 10 days. The buyer has an FHA loan and I’m concerned about the sales price. The FHA appraisal did tell me that I had the nicest looking condo of all the ones he has appraised in my community, so – fingers crossed – it comes it at the appraised value. Note, I listed the condo at a reasonable price, but the buyer wanted me to pay most of her closing costs. My realtor suggested increasing my sales price so that I can cover the buyer’s request. I did. If the appraisal is low, the sale will fall apart.
If it’s on point, I’ll have to scramble to figure out what to do. I am leaning towards putting everything in storage and just traveling. Unfortunately, I need an address for mail, car insurance, etc. I might end up renting a small condo in Vegas for that purpose.
Eventually, I would love to live in a small craftsman style cottage in the woods.